When my daughter moved out to move in with her long time boyfriend, my life changed.... for the better. I'm not listening for anyone saying 'hang on a minute she's your blood, she's your little girl!' Yeah she is my blood and is still her daddy's little girl but she's 25yrs old. Our life had gotten back to almost normality.
Today she arrives with a car boot full of her belonging plus a 2year old CAT!! Bandit was her ex's way of her not gettin bored when he was away on business... so now my 6year old kitty has to make way for another male cat... good luck is what I say. I have laid down a few house rules and board money has shot up to the appropriate amount. Son's now lookin confused 'cuz he now has to do more, and so he should, this aint no fuckin hotel!! They don't like it they know where the door is. The last time ...well actually the time our daughter lived here she made my life a living hell, I blame her for me being on the anti depressants, I'm still on the fuckin meds... So I've told her what goes and what doesn't go. I also know that her dad isn't happy she's back, but we can't throw her out ( there has been times in the past I would have done!) So... our peace and quiet has now gone out of the window... am I a happy bunny? Ya really want me to answer that? I only hope that she can learn how WE live here.... She's in for a shock because I've changed too.
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Lay down the law and the ground rules. Listen with love and stick by your guns. Either she will cope or move back out. Either way you win. She will learn what it means to be a grownup.
It sucks hard but that's the way it goes.
Good for you for letting her know there is only ONE Queen Bee at your house- YOU!
And yes, if she pulls her past crap you can kick her out. She is an adult with a good job and is not without means and resources for taking care of herself.
She should not have even really come back at her age. r made it clear it was only whilst she looked for somewhere to live.
I can't speak in terms of parenting, but it's YOUR house, and what you and your husband say goes. Liking your style!
~Soren
ZomBee ~ Oh I have laid down the law, last she lived here it didn't really work, she used to know how to press my buttons and I fell for it every time, I've told her n her brother who's 24 that this is no longer a hotel or doss house... ya pay rent at he goin rate, if what I cook ya don't like... tough! there's one menu with what we have each day beit whatever, they don't like thy go buy somthin else and cook it...I'm more pissed off that she just turned up out of the blue complete with the cat!!! Which doesn't lie my cat!!
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UBS ~ yeah the rules have chaged... 've just relaid the situatio to y mum dad, they are feelig sorry for me... I still feel like crap over this intrution of my home. The tables have turned. I will tell hubby later that he has to inform her that this is not going to be a perminent place of residence. Only until she finds other suitable accomidation. Bet you'd love to be a fly on that wall eh?
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Soren Ambrose ~ welcome ad thankyou for dropping in. Yes parenting can be a right royal pain some times. I should know I've had my fair share of it lately. In the past it was my husband who was the pain as he sided with his daughter.... against me, think he's had a re-think and is coming to terms with the ew situation...
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I can so relate to what you're dealing with. My son and his girlfriend have been living with me for the past 6 months.
Good on you for being strong and laying down the law!
nitebyrd ~ the hardest part for me is being firm.. it's not in my nature... I used to be a pushover, but am fed up of being pushed here there and everywhere so I've put my foot down. I caught my husband this morning sorting pout sons dry washing... I threw the clothes basket out of his hands n told him NOT to do it, we are not his servants! Son has to learn!!! Hard work but I don't give i that easily
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