Well the time has come for us to wake up and smell the coffee.
With another letter from his boss, and a date for another meeting
to discuss his job, our house, his money they haven't paid him..
the time is gettin ever closer to actually take a deep breath and
realise that we may not have a roof over our head for much
longer. We've both lost our appetites. I've got rid of the massive
headache I was carrying around with me last week. I'm sleeping
better but he isn't sleeping much at all. So we are kind of in limbo
right now... not sure what will happen next. The meeting was
originally this coming Thursday but it's now been moved to
this Wednesday as Thursday we're out for the day to celebrate..
like I/we feel like celebrating anything... my 51st Birthday!
We were going to go out on our m'bikes today for a short spin,
my idea was not to right now as he's not sleeping too well, as
you can imagine.. how would you feel if you were about to
not only lose your job but the house that comes with it, your/
our home!! Sick? Angry? Lost? Anxious? Betrayed? Shitty?
But to name but a few words to describe how I feel this
minute. I thought that because his/ our minds weren't on
the now... that riding a m'bike might not be a good thing.
You need to have your heads screwed on for that job, other-
wise you might lose our head/legs/neck/life!!! Our idea was
for him to work at least 3 more years to pay off our debt.
Now we're at that stage where we have to finalise our
finances.... tighten our belts.. he's even asked me should
we need to down load some items, to gain some cash..
would I be prepared to sell my 'Nitebyrd' m'bike? I
said yes but only as a last resort. I don't want to think
that far ahead.... so I'll keep my head up, try to cheer
him up, try to eat some thing and keep smiling, although
I actually feel like smackin his boss until he doesn't
have a heart beat. He's worked for him for almost 44
years. Has about 2 weeks off through accidents that
happened on the farm, he wasn't paid sick pay, his boss
never came to see him, he was only interested in when
he was returning to work (selfish c**t!) So as you can
imagine my hubby is feeling like crap as though
his boss is about to (and I know he will) crap on him.
I won't be moving in a hurry, this is my home, I've
lived here for 29years, he's lived here 44 years.
I want to cry, but I can't, I won't be reduced to
that..... not yet anyway. So roll on Wednesday,
oh yeah and if we go and the so called boss wants
our son out too, then it becomes even more
personal, our son and Daughter live here, they
will have to find other living arrangements, like
they can afford to live anywhere else, but that
will be a welcome wake up call for them, make
them realise at 25 & 26 mummy n daddy can't
clean up after them anymore.. time for them
to wake up and smell the coffee too. I hate
coffee... I much prefer tea!
8 comments:
Are you familiar with the term 'grace and favour' ? I wonder if your daughter is[ I know that she is a solicitor]. IT meant that when a worked had lived long enough in accommodation that came with a job, it eventually meant that he could live there rent free until his death as he had acquired 'grace and favour'. If your daughter is not familiar with this field of law,then you had best speak with someone who has as I am sure you have built up what they call sitting tenant rights. I am quite familiar with UK property law and I am pretty sure that all is not lost given your husband's long standing with this living/working arrangement. This law was introduced specifically to protect people in their old age when they could not longer work,but still needed the housing.
And I don't need to tell you Indi that employers are not going to protect your rights under the law if you are not aware of them. This may be a case for an employment tribunal.
Also, as he may not be being paid enough per hour under national minimum wage, you should look into that too, as they may owe him back wages.They are only allowed to deduct so much for accommodation.
After 44 years, your husband probably has rights that protect him more than he realizes. Let me know what happens,okay?
PS Thanks for the heart attack forward, I passed it onto a gazillion women!
Oh beautiful Indi... my heart hurts for you. I LOVE what Uber has had to say... and my fingers, toes and eyes are crossed that some of what she says works for you!
I've come to the conclusion that people in general suck. Especially some of 'em in business.
:(
you know i'm here for you.
xoxoxoxo
robelyn
UBS ~ we have now got an appointment to see a solicitor who knows about tenancy laws. Hubby has told the young ones that when he takes a huge pay cut they if they wish to live here will each be paying for either the central heating bill and or the electricity bill, this is on top of what they already pay board money.... that's sent them both quiet!! I will keep ou posted, but I have made it quite clear to my other half that I have no intentions of moving just yet, and not until he has his back pay of over 3 years pay so far totalling 8k!
Indi
UBS ~ As for the heart attack material.... I too have forwarded it to eveyone I know.. forwarned is better I think
Indi
red.neck chic ~ I have come to the conclusion that my husbands boss is a complete wanker! I think that pretty much sums it up. Thanks
Indi
Oh! Indi! I'm so sorry to hear all this - how awful! May I say that I know the sick feeling about possibly losing your home and it just SUCKS! I'll say some "prayers" for you and light a candle.
(((hugs)))
nitebyrd ~ things are lookin some what brighter these past few days... my next hurdle being to tell our belvoed daughter than when me move to our next house, yes we're stayin in this lovely countryside area, she is not coming with us, nor is our son! I'm fed up of beingeither ignored or sworn at.. and walking into a mess after coming home from an 8 hour shift of cleaning for the jail. I love my 'paid' job, I am not a scivvy to tese two off spring, time for them to wak up and realise they gotta fuck off !
Thanks for lighting candle and praying for me... my nerves are almost not quite in tatters now
Indi
xxx
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